One failed relationship and a lot of drama later…world’s still spinning. Either way. The topic of this post has very little to do with my recent relationship life and a lot to do with recent ponderings of my twisted brain. This one is about bottlers. Everyone knows at least one bottler. If you don’t you’re either not very perceptive or you are the bottler amongst your close ones. Now what is a bottler? Bottler is that lovely guy or girl who’s there for everyone but you’ve never seen them upset or hurt. Bottler always claims to be ok. Bottler will insist that they can deal with everything on their own and will not allow people to be there for them unless they’re armed with a lot of patience and a sledge hammer. The funny thing is sooner or later a bottler WILL explode and it won’t be pretty. Especially that since bottler never let anyone close they most likely are going to push anyone trying to help them away. Now here is a message from heart to all the bottlers and their friends. If you’re a bottler you’re going to insist that it worked for you so far even if you break down every other week just to bottle it all back up then rinse and repeat. Now, my dear bottler. I’m pretty sure you have at least one friend who will still care about you if you let them into your head. True friends don’t think any less of their close ones just because they opened up. True friends won’t leave after seeing your true feelings and emotions. I know past experiences might have made you believe otherwise but in all honesty whoever made you trust then left when you did- they weren’t worth your time. It takes a lot of strength to open up and trust again but think of those friends of yours who just happened to walk in at the wrong moment, when you couldn’t keep the cork on that bottle and stood by you. These are your true friends and opening up to them isn’t going to make the world stop spinning, it won’t start zombie apocalypse nor kill a kitten but it might make you feel better and maybe just maybe make you happier. It is also likely to bring you closer with a friend or two and distinguish between dicks and true friends. Dear bottler, as hard as it is you ARE strong enough to trust and you CAN show your true self to those who care. You deserve the same amount of care and support you give out
As for those close to a bottler. No amount of pushing is going to help you get through bottlers’ defences. What you truly need is honesty and patience. Ability to show them that you accept them no matter what and never think of them as weak or pathetic. Just stand by them.
And a short and straight message to all those who stayed friends with someone as long as they were happy but disappeared as soon as the friend showed that they do have feelings, that things in their life whether big or small do affect them and that they need support as much as you do… You’re not friends. You’re immature leeches and I hope you die in a firey pit of zombies.